“You cannot make anyone do what he or she does not want to do. We can only teach him a better way and encourage him to try it.”

---Dr. William Glasser

 

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Reality Therapy

Kim Olver

Reality Therapy is a counseling method that was developed by Dr. William Glasser in 1965. However, it is so much more than a counseling technique. Reality Therapy is a problem solving method that works well with people who are experiencing problems they want help solving, as well as those who are having problems and appear to not want any assistance. Reality Therapy also provides an excellent model for helping individuals solve their own problems objectively and serves as the ideal questioning series during coaching sessions.

The underlying key to Reality Therapy is the relationship that is established with the person who needs the help. This is most critical when you are attempting to help someone who doesn’t really want your help, such as a non-voluntary client, a resistant student or your sometimes even your own child. Without a positive relationship, you have no influence. To your helpee, you sound similar to the way adults sound in the Peanuts cartoons, “Whaa, wha, whaa, whaa, whaa.” Your helpee doesn’t hear you without the relationship. Gary Zucov says, “Relationship is the root of all influence.” This is certainly true. You can have all the knowledge in the world but if the person you are attempting to help doesn’t believe you care and have their best interests at heart, they, most likely, will not be listening to you.

So how do you build a relationship? Reality Therapy provides a model by instructing helpers to create a need-satisfying environment. The five basic needs of all humans are survival; love and belonging; power; freedom and fun. So, in a helping relationship, the helper must create an environment where it is possible for the person being helped to feel safe; to feel connected to the helper in some way; to be listened to and respected; to have some choices; and to have some fun or learning with the helper. After creating this need-satisfying environment and working hard to maintain it throughout the relationship, the helper can move on to the actual problem.

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Choice Theory

Choice Theory is actually an explanation of all human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser.

Choice Theory pretty much rids us of the idea that people are “misbehaving.” All anyone is doing is their best attempt to get something they want. Of course in the process, they may break laws, disregard rules and hurt others but those are really side effects of doing the best they know how to get their needs met. We are all doing our best—some of us simply have better tools, resources and behaviors at our disposal than others.

If we embrace Choice Theory’s concepts, then our function should be more to educate and help others self-evaluate the effectiveness of their own behavior. Know that often they will continue to do things exactly as they have because it’s familiar and/or because what they are doing really is getting them something they want. It is not our job to stop them, nor is it our job to rescue them from the consequences of their own behavior.

We can only make our best attempt to help others evaluate the effectiveness of their behavior and to choose a different way that perhaps is not against the rules or doesn’t hurt the person or someone else. Then, we need to get out of the way and let the situation play out. This may seem hard to do—like you aren’t doing your job as a parent, teacher, counselor, or supervisor, however, I ask, what is the alternative?

When you attempt to force or coerce or bribe another person to do things he or she doesn’t want to do, you may be successful. You may be able to find the right reward or create a painful enough consequence to get another person to do what you want but in so doing you are breeding resentment and contempt. Your relationship will suffer. If you believe, as I do, that relationship is the root of all influence, then you are losing your ability to influence another by using external control.

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    • Learn powerful strategies to calmly manage all your life holds.
    • Develop coping mechanisms to take control back in your life.
    • You will no longer be a victim of your past, your emotions or your life circumstances.
    • Learn an effective strategy for helping yourself and others make more effective decisions in your lives.
    • Improve the significant relationships you have with the important people in your life.
    • Learn strategies for more effectively getting what you want in life.
    • Reduce the stress and distress you currently experience.

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4. Feel Better! Once you start implementing the ideas discussed in the this eBook, you will gain more control over your work environment that previously felt out of control. All of your energy will be focused on the areas over which you have control.

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"I loved Dr. Glasser's ideas when I heard him speak in 1991, and was certified in 1994. It was time for a review and the ebook was just right. I looked forward to reading each chapter and bringing my knowledge up to date. The personal examples demonstrating an idea were my favorites. Thank you Kim for this valuable resource at a reasonable cost."

— Beverly LaFond, Practicum Supervisor for
The William Glasser Institute

 

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Kim Olver

Kim Olver, Coach, Speaker & Author of
Leveraging Diversity at Work
&
Secrets of Happy Couples
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P.O. Box 2666, Country Club Hills, IL 60478
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All great relationships begin and end with yourself - Kim Olver