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Inside Out Personal Edition “You can't change the direction of the wind. . . but you can adjust your sails!” ---Jimmy Dean Kim Olver, MS, NCC, LPC www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz Kim@TheRelationshipCenter.biz
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| This Month's Feature Teleclass Empowerment Parenting: 50% OFF for the first Ten (10) Purchasers We cannot continue to parent our older children the way we did when they were younger children, or even the way our parents parented us. The world is different! Children are different! If we do not learn new innovations in parenting, our efforts will likely be ineffective at best, and actually destructive at their worst. Attend this teleclass series and learn about the inherent conflict between parents and their children, as well as ways to circumvent it. You can reasonably insure your child’s safety and still maintain a positive relationship. The focus will be more educational than therapeutic. Parents will learn a negotiation method that will help them work out win/win solutions with their teen in a way that’s fair and nonconfrontational...It’s just one hour a week for six weeks to learn how to create the caring, supportive, trusting and protective relationship that you want with your child. Once you learn the things you will need to know about yourself and your child in this teleseries, you’ll realize that it isn’t so difficult, after all, to parent your children through difficult phases in their life, still stay the parent, and keep your child safe at the same time. Being a parent doesn’t have to be burdened with frustration, conflict and worry. It can be fun, creative and relatively simple! Click Here for a full description and to register |
A Message from Kim I just returned from a trip to Florida where I spoke about cultural awareness at the National At-Risk Education Network’s annual conference. I was impressed by the number of dedicated educators in attendance who are positively committed to doing the best they can for the children they serve. It was an honor to be among them. I salute their hard work and dedication. This month I want to focus on self-development. Spring is an appropriate time of year to think about renewal and self-improvement. I do not talk a lot about Reality Therapy and Choice Theory in my material but everything I write and many of my workshop topics are based on this revolutionary work of Dr. William Glasser. I am an approved instructor through his institute and hold several weeks of training throughout the year in these ideas. Don’t be put off by the name, Reality Therapy. This workshop is not just for counselors. Reality Therapy is a problem solving method and that can be used across the board. It will help you become better at solving your own problems as well as helping others to solve theirs. Reality Therapy helped me become a better counselor, supervisor, wife, mother, friend and all around person. Choice Theory is the basis for understanding all human behavior. If you ever wondered why your child, your life partner, your boss and anyone else does the things they do, then Choice Theory will help you understand. Once you have that solid understanding, then you can make better decisions about how to respond in ways that will benefit you. My entire work is dedicated to helping people unleash their personal power by learning to distinguish between things they can control and things they can’t. I then help them focus their incredible energy on those things they can change, with phenomenal results in the areas of empowerment and greater life and relationship satisfaction. If this sounds like something you would like to learn, please join us for one of our workshops in the Chicago area or if you can get at least 12 people together, I would come to you wherever you are. Click here to learn more about these upcoming events. I hope you can attend and look forward to meeting you there. |
In this Issue E-Courses --- Dale Carnegie The Sedona Method About Kim Olver Click on the link below for a description of this amazing F - R - E - E teleclass. Offered the second Tuesday
of every month. Next Class March 14, 2006 --9:00 p.m.
F-R-E-E Teleclass - How to Talk to Your Child Anger Management Grief & Loss Healing Foster Parenting Teleseries Six (6) Week teleseries. Click on link for more information or to purchase. Foster Parent Agencies - Please click here to order this teleseries
************************ This workshop teaches you secret strategies to assist your child to become more goal directed, responsible and cooperative. This workshop can change your life and bring peace back into your home. It will teach you how to provide for your child’s safety, without fighting and to increase the genuine loving relationship between you. You will be encouraged, enlightened, and exhorted in ways that you never thought possible. For a more detailed description of this weekend workshop and to purchase click on the link above. Don't wait, the introductory price is for a limited time only. If you are considering purchasing this workshop, but are still unsure why not join us on our f.ree teleclass, "How to Talk to Your Teen". Click here for more information. Chats
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Inside Out Empowerment When we are thinking of making changes in our lives, all too often we look externally. We have a perfect picture in our heads about what life should look like, then we go about acting on life to give us whatever it is we think would be perfect. The only problem with this approach is that we are giving away our personal power. Copyright © March 2006 Kim Olver. All rights reserved ****************************** . ****************************** "It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about." --- Dale Carnegie What you think about expands. If you think of the things you lack, then you will get more of the same. If you think in terms of gratitude for that which already exists in your life, then you will experience more of that. This is so simple, it is a no-brainer. Which would you rather? It’s as easy as changing what you think about. Whenever you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, recognize what you are doing and quickly focus your attention on something positive in your life. ****************************** Whenever you find yourself experiencing a strong emotion—either positive or negative—make an attempt to become “The Watcher.” See if you can imagine yourself watching you experiencing the emotion instead of actually becoming the emotion. When you leave yourself in order to watch , there is a distance and objectivity to the watching. It helps you to become detached and divorced from the outcome of the exchange. Give it a try and let me know how it works. ******************************
The Sedona Method: I can tell you I had this book on my shelf for over a year before I finally decided to pick it up and read it. What was I thinking to leave it there like that? I didn’t know its power. I read this book in the last couple of weeks when I had been going through some personal things. I was very surprised by how easy the techniques were to do and how much better I felt afterward. The book starts with the basic premise that I’ve heard and embraced before that the majority of human suffering comes from a resistance to what actually exists. The book also recognizes that we, as humans, really don’t experience our emotions in a healthy way. Emotions are simply energy and are meant to flow through us. However, too often we bottle up our emotions and then our bodies hold onto them. In an attempt to release the energy of emotions, The Sedona Method teaches various ways to allow oneself to experience the emotion fully and then simply let it go. Beyond the emotions are our wants—we want security, approval, control or separation and at a very deep, spiritual level we need to look at what is at the root of the emotions we are experiencing and let go of wanting security, approval, control or separation. It is a very interesting concept to me and I have experienced a great degree of success with it in the short time I have been using it. Give it a try. It’s well worth the price of the book. Click here to order this book ****************************** .. Q: I know there are so many things I should be doing for myself but there is never enough time. I don’t know what I should do. ***************************** How would you like to take one of my teleclasses for f.ree? All you have to do is get two (2) people to subscribe to either of my eZines and send me their e-mail addresses for confirmation with the name of the teleclass you would like to attend. If you do not wish to attend one of the teleclasses, you can give your f.ree teleclass to a friend or family member. It’s that simple! Send either one or both of the following links to all your friends and family and ask them to subscribe to the eZine. For the personal edition of "Inside Out", go to The Relationship Center and for the business edition go to Coaching for Excellence and have them type their name and email address in the boxes on the right-hand side of the web page where it says, “Subscribe to Receive 'Inside Out', our Fr.ee eZine". Only two people actually have to subscribe for you to be eligible for a f.ree teleclass. Once their subscription has been confirmed you will receive an e-mail giving you the bridge line and access code for the teleclass of your choosing. A listing of teleclasses being offered can be found in both my monthly e-zine or on my classes page at either web site. There is no limit to the amount of f.ree teleclasses you can earn---you get one f.ree teleclass for every two referrals that sign up for one of my eZines. Within the next year I am planning on adding many new teleclasses on several topics including the following: . Weight Loss . Please continue to check this eZine and my website calendar for these new and exciting teleclasses. Don’t wait, take advantage of this offer and experience the new technology of teleclasses, learning and growing from home. ****************************** Relationship Improvement Tip Sheet - A fourteen (14) page document loaded with helpful tips on how to improve your relationship with the significant people in your life. FREE when you purchase one of our Coaching Packages or available by direct purchase by clicking on the title above. Click here to go to our list of coaching packages. Parenting Tip Sheet - Nineteen (19) page Tip Sheet on how to parent your child in today's world using Choice Theory Parenting. Choice Theory Parenting involves a process in which you learn to understand the inherent conflict between you and your child and learn about the five basic human needs. Understanding these basic needs, which we are all born with, will help you improve the relationship with your child and maintain that relationship through the adolescent years. There are five proven techniques that help to diffuse an angry person’s anger when implemented with genuineness. Do you live with or have regular interaction with someone who is often frustrated and angry? Then this information can help that person as well as you. Your stress will decrease and you will develop more satisfying relationships. Give it a try. There is nothing to lose. If you are not satisfied with the information presented, just send me an email and I’ll return the money you paid and you can keep the report! Twelve Steps to Help you Lose the Weight Forever - In this thirteen (13) page report you will learn skills to help lose the weight and keep it off. You will learn Choice Theory, the new psychology of personal freedom, as an explanation for why you do what you do---no matter what is behind your weight issue, this theory can provide a framework for understanding. How many times have you attempted to lose weight only to gain it and more back again? Are you tired of being on a diet? Wonder what makes this program different? Well, in the first place, it is done in the privacy of your own home at your own pace. You decide when to complete the next lesson. Choice Theory Report
****************************** Kim Olver has a graduate degree in counseling, is a National Certified Counselor and a licensed professional counselor in two states. She has worked in the helping profession since 1982 and has spent her entire life helping people get along better with the important people in their lives. Kim is the author of Leveraging Diversity at Workä and the author of the forthcoming books, Empowerment Parentingä and Relationship Empowermentä. She is a member of the American Counseling Association and a certified reality therapy instructor with the William Glasser Institute. She has provided training to thousands of people in Glasser’s ideas that gave birth to the concepts she teaches now: “Inside Out Empowerment.” Kim is an expert in relationship, parenting and personal empowerment. She works with individuals who want to gain more effective control of their lives and relationships, and who would like to achieve greater satisfaction and heightened contentment. What makes her services different from other relationship experts is that she helps her clients tap into their internal power source by focusing only on those things they can change, and as a result, her clients become empowered so they can deliberately create the life and relationships they deserve. Her website, www.therelationshipcenter.biz, offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, advice, counseling and coaching. |
