Divorce

Starting Over

Posted by on Oct 18, 2017 in Divorce, Grief and Loss, Relationship with Self, Relationships | 0 comments

Starting Over

Starting over after the loss of a loved one is a monumental task that can feel overwhelming at times. Whether there has been a death, a divorce, or a separation from a friend, rebuilding your life is usually is necessary. Shock and denial are normally initial reactions after a loss, particularly if there was no warning. The vision of the future you had with your loved one is suddenly shattered; your hopes and dreams need to be rewritten. How will we cope? How can we go on? But go on we must, and we will. First, we try to regain what we have lost. Death makes this impossible, but that...

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Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 2)

Posted by on Jul 4, 2017 in compatibility, Divorce, Relationships | Comments Off on Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 2)

So you have completely different interests… what do you share? Do you have similar values? Do you like to vacation? Do you parent well together? Do you share similar views on your finances? Do you have a great sex life? Are you comfortable with each another? What do you respect about one another? Perhaps you have been focusing so much on your lack of common interests that you have forgotten what you share; consider what you have in common. Can you go back in time and remember the things that attracted you in the beginning? Perhaps they still exist. What can you appreciate about your...

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Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

Posted by on Jun 27, 2017 in compatibility, Divorce, Relationships | Comments Off on Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

It is not uncommon to be in a relationship with someone who seems like an alien to you. Opposites often attract, it’s true, but they don’t always stay together. Perhaps you wonder how your partner could possibly think the way he or she does, and it seems you two are completely contrary with one another. Is a break up inevitable? Of course not. It is possible for opposites to stay together if your causes are greater than your consequences. Think about the reasons you want to stay together with this person. Do you love him or her? Are you staying together for the children? Do religious...

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Cooperatively Parenting Children through Divorce

Posted by on Jun 6, 2017 in Divorce, Grief and Loss, Parenting, Relationships | Comments Off on Cooperatively Parenting Children through Divorce

Cooperatively Parenting Children through Divorce

If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, for your children’s sake, you must cooperatively parent them through your divorce as a team. Even if it seems like one day your spouse announced to you he or she wants a divorce, you can be certain your spouse considered it for a long time. Divorce is rarely an easy snap decision, especially when kids are involved. There are three things that will help you work together for the well-being of your children and they each involve creating a healthy mindset. Whatever happened to spark this divorce, do your very best not to take it personally. Of...

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Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?

Posted by on May 31, 2017 in Divorce, Grief and Loss, Relationships, Trust | Comments Off on Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?

Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?

Is love a feeling or is it a choice? What if it’s a value or a behavior? It can be all of those things. Typically, when you decide you want a divorce, you are no longer “feeling” love toward or from your spouse, but love is so much more than the “feeling.” You can make the choice to love and behave in a loving way. There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound...

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Helping Kids After Divorce When One Parent Stops Parenting

Posted by on May 24, 2017 in Divorce, Grief and Loss, Parenting, Relationships, Trust | Comments Off on Helping Kids After Divorce When One Parent Stops Parenting

Helping Kids After Divorce When One Parent Stops Parenting

Divorce doesn’t have to be the worst thing to happen to your kids. Yes, it is difficult for children when their parents divorce; it is also difficult for kids to live with parents who constantly fight or no longer love one another. Yet, one thing I know about children is that they are resilient. If both parents are happy, they can better attend to their children’s needs and happiness, and the story can have a happy ending. The ideal divorce is done respectfully, without malice and blame. Throughout the transition, the parents support each other and work together to co-parent their...

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