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Starting Over

Posted by on Oct 18, 2017 in Divorce, Grief and Loss, Relationship with Self, Relationships | 0 comments

Starting Over

Starting over after the loss of a loved one is a monumental task that can feel overwhelming at times. Whether there has been a death, a divorce, or a separation from a friend, rebuilding your life is usually is necessary. Shock and denial are normally initial reactions after a loss, particularly if there was no warning. The vision of the future you had with your loved one is suddenly shattered; your hopes and dreams need to be rewritten. How will we cope? How can we go on? But go on we must, and we will. First, we try to regain what we have...

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While You Carry the Weight of the World, Who’s Lifting You?

Posted by on Oct 10, 2017 in Choosing Me Now, mental health, Relationship with Self, Relationships, Self-Development, Self-growth, stress | 0 comments

While You Carry the Weight of the World, Who’s Lifting You?

Is your life full of responsibility, having to pick up the slack for those around you? Do you sometimes want to run away from this life? If this describes you, there are some questions to ask yourself: Is everything I’m doing really necessary Just because you can do something doesn’t always mean you should; for some people, doing for others is a habit. Doing things for others can sometimes rob them of the lessons they would learn from doing it themselves. What are you doing for others that they can do for themselves? Could I delegate...

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Stop Defending Yourselves

Posted by on Oct 6, 2017 in mental health | Comments Off on Stop Defending Yourselves

As trained mental health professionals and clinicians, we’re supposed to understand the importance of reflection, consider our biases, be open to another’s perspective, and, perhaps most importantly, listen. But when it comes to opening up to ideas or information that challenge your worldview or how you conduct your business, on the whole, you’re doing a pretty poor job with all of the above. For instance, in an article that an Irish news source was brave enough to publish, a woman describes her experience of fighting back against...

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Guilting wife into sex is a bad idea

Posted by on Oct 3, 2017 in Choice Theory, guilt, listening, love, Relationships, romance, sex | Comments Off on Guilting wife into sex is a bad idea

Guilting wife into sex is a bad idea

This article is about how to help women feel sexual minus the guilty control. As a Choice Theory expert, I know that trying to guilt your wife into having sex will be a lose/lose/lose proposition. You will not have the enthusiastic sex partner you really crave; she will not be feeling amorous toward the person who coerced her; and your relationship will grow weaker because of it. Whenever one partner tries to get the other partner to do something he or she doesn’t want to do either through complaints, threats or guilt, the result is...

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Unconditional Trust Challenge

Posted by on Sep 27, 2017 in Choice Theory, Relationship with Self, Relationships, Relationships - Home, Relationships - Work, Self-Development, Self-growth, Trust | Comments Off on Unconditional Trust Challenge

Unconditional Trust Challenge

by Kim Olver My friend recently wrote something on Facebook that, for me, sparked some further thinking: “I used to worry about people I love. Now I just love them.” Later that same day, a client of mine shared a story about her mind wandering while home with her husband on a Saturday night. She began thinking about the persistent cough her daughter has had for the last two years, which evolved into the idea she may have cancer. She imagined her daughter dying, leaving behind her children that she and her husband would need to take care...

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Anger Management: Staying Calm when Anger Wants to be the Boss

Posted by on Jul 19, 2017 in Anger, Relationships | Comments Off on Anger Management: Staying Calm when Anger Wants to be the Boss

Anger Management: Staying Calm when Anger Wants to be the Boss

Do you find yourself angry often? Do other people know how to set you off? Do you find yourself often annoyed with what other people are doing? Are there certain people in your life that know how to push your buttons? Are there certain things that are hot issues for you? Do you sometimes do and say things in anger you later regret? If this describes you, the question to ask yourself is, “Do I control my anger or is my anger controlling me?” If your anger causes you to become a person you do not like or recognize, then keep reading. Choice...

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The Dr. Peter Breggin Hour

Posted by on Jul 12, 2017 in interview | Comments Off on The Dr. Peter Breggin Hour

The Dr. Peter Breggin Hour

Kim Olver is a coach, counselor and director of the William Glasser Institute. My organization is cosponsoring a great conference with her July 26-29, 2017, including a full-day workshop on July 26 with me and Bob Whitaker (www.breggin.com, click on Upcoming Events). The show with Kim focuses on what people really need to have good lives and then progresses to how a person can become a well-trained certified counselor or coach without going through too much unnecessary and often corrupting education. Training counselors and coaches is basic to...

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Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 2)

Posted by on Jul 4, 2017 in compatibility, Divorce, Relationships | Comments Off on Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 2)

So you have completely different interests… what do you share? Do you have similar values? Do you like to vacation? Do you parent well together? Do you share similar views on your finances? Do you have a great sex life? Are you comfortable with each another? What do you respect about one another? Perhaps you have been focusing so much on your lack of common interests that you have forgotten what you share; consider what you have in common. Can you go back in time and remember the things that attracted you in the beginning? Perhaps they...

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Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

Posted by on Jun 27, 2017 in compatibility, Divorce, Relationships | Comments Off on Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

Making a Marriage Work when our Interests are Completely Different (part 1)

It is not uncommon to be in a relationship with someone who seems like an alien to you. Opposites often attract, it’s true, but they don’t always stay together. Perhaps you wonder how your partner could possibly think the way he or she does, and it seems you two are completely contrary with one another. Is a break up inevitable? Of course not. It is possible for opposites to stay together if your causes are greater than your consequences. Think about the reasons you want to stay together with this person. Do you love him or her? Are you...

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The Compatibility Quiz

Posted by on Jun 20, 2017 in compatibility, love, Relationships, Self-Development, Self-growth | Comments Off on The Compatibility Quiz

The Compatibility Quiz

Who and what are you attracted to in life? There are many factors that come into play, of course. Sometimes, we are attracted to the physical. When you find someone physically attractive, you may believe you’ve fallen in love. In reality, you are likely in lust. The same is true for pheromones. Pheromones can explain a chemical attraction, but do little to sustain a long-term, committed monogamous relationship. In others words, attraction is a great start but that is not what builds relationships to long-term grown-up love. Wouldn’t it...

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