Would you Like to Learn Secret Strategies for Helping Your Child Become More Goal Directed, Responsible and Cooperative?

When my sons were 13 and 15 years-old, my husband died of cancer and I had to raise them alone.

Initially, things were totally out of control. My husband had been the disciplinarian in the home and I was the total pushover. I was the understanding parent who was as permissive as my husband was strict. You might say together we balanced each other out but imagine what happened when he was no longer there. Chaos!

All I can say is without the concepts of Empowerment Parenting, my children and I would have been lost. It truly saved my life and probably the lives of my children. In order to successfully navigate the dangers of childhood, children require a healthy balance of discipline, love, respect and support.

Many parents, when faced with a child going through a difficult period, will ask, “Why do I need to change? I’m not the one with the problem.” In effect, that question is all wrong! Who is it with the problem? Does the child come to the parent and say, “I really think I need some help to better control my behavior. I’m a little out of control!” I don’t know about you, but those were never words uttered in my house, although I believe they were certainly true at times.

Who’s the one with the problem? Who’s the one experiencing discomfort with the situation? I’m not asking who is “misbehaving”; I’m asking who is in the most distress over the events that exist? You are—the parent. That’s good. Now that problem ownership has been identified, the next question is fairly simple.

Whose behavior can you control? That’s right. Whose behavior are you able to change? If you were able to change your child’s behavior, you probably wouldn’t be reading this entry right now. Sure, you may be able to raise the stakes or make the punishment so severe, that your child will do what you want, but at what cost? What does it do to your relationship? Also, what do you think he or she does when you aren’t around to see? And if you are still holding fast to the belief that you can control your child’s behavior, have you ever attempted to feed a baby who didn’t want to be fed? Enough said!

Whose behavior can you control? That’s right. Yours! So, if you have a problem situation, what is the most logical thing to do? Again, you already know the answer! Decide what YOU can do differently to affect change in the situation. You can certainly keep doing what you’ve been doing but you are likely to continue to get the same results. How are they working for you so far? How much longer do you want to keep getting the results you’ve been getting? That’s the reason you need to look at changing what you are doing.

When you do, you tap into that awesome power within you. Your power source comes from focusing your energies on the things you can control—your own thoughts and behaviors. When you do that, you can achieve tremendous results but you have to give up the notion that you can force others to do things your way.  Once you do, there’s no telling the effects the adjustments in your own behavior will make.

Give it a try. What do you have to lose?

What is a Teleconference?

Teleconferences are the new and upcoming technology for brief conferences and self-development experiences! Learn and improve without leaving your home. Teleconferences are simply conference calls, ranging in size from 2 to 100 participants, where you can hear the teleconference leader share his/her expertise, interact with other individuals on the call and ask pertinent questions. When you register for a teleconference, you will receive an email with a phone number and an access code. At the appointed time, you will dial the number, punch in the access code provided and be instantly connected to a conference telephone line with the other participants. The only cost to you will be your cost of a long distance phone call. This works out to $3.00 for the whole hour if your long distance rate is $.05/minute or it's nothing if you use the free minutes allotted with your cell phone.

The advantages of teleconferences are that you don’t have to leave your home. You can remain anonymous---no one knows you. You don't have to speak if you don't want to. You can hang up if the call doesn’t interest you. You can multitask while in the privacy of your own home. You don’t have to worry about what you’re going to wear. And you won’t need driving directions!

During the call, there will be time when everyone but me will be muted. This cuts down on any background noise and allows me to present the message. After that, the phone lines will be open and you will be able to ask questions or make comments.

In the hustle and bustle of today’s world, teleconferences are an innovative option to getting help and information needed from a live person without leaving the comfort of your home.

Five Reasons to take Action Right NOW:

 

1.  No Risk! I have a 100% risk-free guarantee.  If after applying these principles for up to 365 days, you are not completely satisfied with the results, simply send me an email and I'll happily refund your money in full.

2.  Save Time! The task of raising your child is not going to magically get easier. Don’t waste precious time to learn the secrets of navigating this time period without frustration and aggravation!

3.  Save Money! Six (6) hours of counseling with a professional counselor can cost as much as $1000.00! This series is $97---this comes to less than $17.00 per hour!

4.  Your child will begin to share information with you! When employing Empowerment Parenting, your children will know that you are supporting them in getting what they need and will begin to see you as an ally instead of the enemy. Because you have more information, you will be better able to help your child avoid the trap of dangerous situations.

5.  Empower your Child! You will be able to teach your child the skills he/she needs to make critical decisions gradually on his/her own with which they are faced when you are not around.  Empowerment Parenting is about helping children assess the pros and cons of decisions with which they are faced. You gradually add more freedom, as they gain responsible behaviors to manage that freedom. In so doing, your child will learn to make good decisions, while still having your support at home.

Six (6) Week Teleconference series
Beginning Monday October 1, 2007 and ending on
November 5, 2007 from 8:45-9:45 PM EST

I have learned two very important things in my work as a parent and with the other parents I have known:  

1.    Parents and children both function better when they can maintain a positive relationship throughout the adolescent years.

2.    As a parent, you will be better able to protect your child , when your child trusts you enough to share what is honestly going on with him or her.

So, Take the First Step, It's Time to Stop Wishing 

YOU WERE GETTING ALONG BETTER

And Take Some Action Now!

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Phone: 708-957-6047
Email: kim@TheRelationshipCenter.biz

 

 

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EED to help YOU SUCCEED as a PARENT.

Think about it, parenting is probably the most important job you’ll ever undertake and the one for which you are the least prepared and trained. All we have is the model of how our parents parented us. Even if you were lucky enough to have a stupendous example of parenting, what was successful thirty or forty years ago, may no longer be effective because the context in which we are operating as parents is vastly different than the one from which our parents operated.

You update your computer programming don’t you? Why wouldn’t you update your parenting skills, as well? What worked for your five year-old, will probably not work as well for your 15 year-old. Empowerment Parenting provides the answers.

Dear Moms, Dads and Caregivers,