Why should YOU listen to me???

BECAUSE, I have been where you are!!!!

Chances are you haven’t heard of me but my name is Kim Olver, MS, NCC, LPC, RTC! All these initials don't mean much unless you know that I have been teaching choice theory since 1988 and have raised two boys alone through their teenage years.

I have taught and/or trained hundreds of people, many of whom were foster parents. Maybe you even been in one of my trainings. I worked in the field of foster care, helping foster parents gain the skills they needed to master that difficult task of raising someone else’s children, who had most often been through some incredibly challenging circumstances in their young lives.

I know about parenting. I have extensively studied the programs that are available and find Empowerment Parenting to be the most effective. There is no one thing that works with all children, which is the attraction of Choice Theory. This is no cookie cutter mold. Choice Theory treats every parent and every child as an individual.

If you have had more than one foster child, I am certain that you already know, what works for one, may be completely ineffective with another. Choice Theory provides an explanation for this. AND, BEST OF ALL, I can SHARE with you the information you need to maximize your effectiveness as a foster parent!

Choice Theory is an exciting way to parent today's foster child. It is being taught worldwide. More punishment, control and coercion is NOT the answer, neither is abdicating control to your foster children!

You cannot parent your foster child the way you parented your own. After all, there are agencies and often the child's legal parent involved. We cannot continue to parent our children the way we did when they were younger children, or even the way our parents parented us. The world is different! Children are different! If we do not learn new innovations in parenting, our efforts will likely be ineffective at best, and actually destructive at their worst.

Attend this teleclass series and learn about the inherent conflict between foster parents and foster children, as well as ways to circumvent it. You can reasonably insure your foster child’s safety and still maintain a positive relationship.

The focus will be more educational than therapeutic. Foster parents will learn a negotiation method that will help them work out win/win solutions with their foster children in a way that’s fair and nonconfrontational...It’s just one hour a week for six weeks to learn how to create the caring, supportive, trusting and protective relationship that you want with your foster child.

Once you learn the things you will need to know about yourself and your foster child in this teleclass series, you’ll realize that it isn’t so difficult, after all, to relate to your foster child, still stay the parent, and keep your foster child safe at the same time. Being the foster parent of a foster child doesn’t have to be burdened with frustration, conflict and worry. It can be rewarding, fun and creative.

Here's just a fraction of what you will experience in this AMAZING teleclass:

• Learn the five basic genetic needs that drive all human behavior and the one(s) that are strongest for you and your foster child. Take an assessment to determine where your need strengths may be compatible and where they may conflict.

• Learn about your Quality World and the things that you store there, including your expectations of your foster children and yourself as a foster parent.

• Understand that all you do in your relationship is your best attempt to get something you want. It is the same for your foster child. Discover areas where what you want is the same and where it may be different.

• Discuss how the self-evaluation process works and how you can influence this process in your foster children. Relationship is the root of all influence.

• Learn about the basic needs in terms of a person’s developmental stages and what exactly this means for you and your foster child. Everyone is biologically driven to get his or her needs met.

• Discover the one thing that is most detrimental to relationships---external control. Learn the seven deadly relationship habits to avoid and make plans to replace them with the seven caring habits.

• Learn about family meetings, non-negotiable rules and teaching your foster child self-discipline. Practice using Choice Theory language.

• Learn tried and true step-by-step techniques of negotiation that will ensure both you and your foster child get what you need! It’s called, “Win/Win or No Deal!”

No FRILLS, No FLUFF, No HYPE. 

Just the information…and the KNOWLEDGE You NEED to help YOU SUCCEED as a foster parent.

Think about it, parenting a foster child is probably the most important job you’ll ever undertake and the one for which you are the least prepared and trained. All we have is the model of how our parents parented us. Even if you were lucky enough to have a stupendous example of parenting, what was successful thirty or forty years ago, may no longer be effective because the context in which we are operating as parents is vastly different than the one from which our parents operated.

You update your computer programming don’t you? Why wouldn’t you update your parenting skills, as well? What worked for your five year-old, will probably not work as well for your 15 year-old. Choice Theory provides the answers.

Never heard of teleclasses? When you register for this teleclass series by clicking on any of the links provided, you will receive an email with a phone number and an access code. At the appointed time, you will dial the number, punch in the access code provided and be instantly connected to a conference telephone line with the other participants. The only cost to you will be your cost of a long distance phone call. This works out to $3.00 for an hours call if you long distance costs $.05/ per minute or nothing if you use the free minutes allotted with your cell phone.

So….

Isn't It Time to Take THIS Opportunity?

How many times have you done something and said to yourself afterward, “That wasn’t so bad, why did I so long to do that?”

You may be waiting for “This too to pass” and eventually it will. But how do you want to spend the time while you are waiting? It can be so much better than it is now!

Three Reasons Why you'll be Eternally Thankful that
you're Taking Action Right Now

1.      Save Time! The task of raising your foster child is not going to magically get easier. Don’t waste precious time to learn the secrets of navigating this major committment without frustration and aggravation!

2.      Your foster child will begin to share information with you! When employing Empowerment Parenting, your foster children will know that you are supporting them in getting what they need and will begin to see you as an ally instead of the enemy. Because you have more information, you will be better able to help your foster child to gain more control of his or her life.

3.      You will be able to teach your foster child the skills he/she needs to make critical decisions gradually on his/her own! Empowerment Parenting is about helping children assess the pros and cons of decisions with which they are faced. You gradually add more freedom, as they gain responsible behaviors to manage that freedom. In so doing, your foster child will learn to make good decisions, while still having your support at home.

3.      You will have greater success as a foster parent. You will have abundance of tools at your disposal to try prior to asking for your foster child's removal from your home. If you ever had to do that, I know it was a heartbreaking decision. I am sure you tried everything you could think of prior to that choice. This teleseries will provide you with even more options to try.

I have learned two very important things in my work as a parent and with the other parents I have known:  

1.    Parents and children both function better when they can maintain a positive relationship.

2.    As a foster parent, you will be better able to protect your foster child, when your foster child trusts you enough to share what is honestly going on with him or her.

So, Take the First Step, It's Time to Stop Wishing 

YOU WERE GETTING ALONG BETTER

And Take Some Action Now!

Coaching for Excellence
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